It's her big day. And its your big speech!
This is the day your bestie gets another title - a wife. You've seen this woman through her single years to becoming someone's fiance, and today someone's wife. This is your moment to say your heartfelt congrats to the couple and give them your blessings.
You definitely don't want to wing your speech. This isn't like your school days when you crammed the night before a final. You'll be making a speech in front of family and friends. Be sure to limit the amount of drinks you have before this speech. You want to look collected and composed. Write bullet points on note cards of what you want to talk about and work off those general topics. Practice the speech in front of a friend who knows the couple and see how it is received. This will be a good gauge of your speech and make adjustments where needed.
2) It's not about you
This is her day not yours. Quickly introduce yourself to the crowd and say how important the bride is to you. You can follow that with a story about your friendship, but then move on. Keep the focus on the happy couple and their union. If you have any personal disapproval of the groom , do not express this in a passive aggressive manner during your speech. This is not the time to air out dirty laundry. Your speech will be captured by cameras and video recordings the last thing you want to do is ruin the bride's very special day.
3) Don't over-share
You want to share a story or two about your friendship and the relationship of the bride and groom. But this isn't a time for you to embarrass your bestie. No need to let people know about your drunken wild days in college or how you two had men crawling at your feet in your younger years. Sentimental stories are always best to stick to. Maybe share the moment she told you she was engaged! Or when she told you she realised that her then boyfriend was the person she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. These stories will tug at peoples heart strings and there will surely be watery eyes in the crowd.
4) Don't over think
This speech is a moment to express joy and love. There is no need to sweat and worry about it. As long as it is heartfelt, the crowd and most importantly the bride and groom will be grateful for your kind words and efforts you put forth.
Remember all eye are on you. Take a quick trip to the bathroom before your speech. Make sure there's no make up in your teeth and there's no fly aways on your hair. And remember to carry your best asset throughout your speech, your smile!
Do you have a helpful tip for a wedding speech?