As someone whose Facebook feed is filling up with new engagements and newlyweds, you could say life is reaching “that grown up stage”. Let’s get one thing straight I’ve always been an attendee at a wedding, but never a bridesmaid. Being an attendee at a wedding is one of the easiest, if not, best position to be in. You don’t experience any major stress except the wedding gift and your outfit, and you get to fully enjoy the wedding itself without running around making sure that everything is going smoothly.
While being an attendee is all fine and dandy, one has to wonder what being a bridesmaid really feels like. Is it full of stress and anxiety for the big day? Is it a money-sucking gigantic affair that leaves you with a beautiful gown and wonderful memories? Is it a way to bond with your best friends and enjoy ‘girltime’ before the idea of marriage really kicks in? These are all the questions one asks one’s self having not experienced the joy (and pain) of being part of the wedding party.
Am I really missing out by not being a bridesmaid (yet)? The truth is, the idea of being part of the wedding party intimidates me a bit. You’re a huge part of the wedding and along with the bride and groom, you experience “second hand stress and anxiety”. It’s your job to make sure that the bride is set for her wedding day and that she has the support of her favourite girls.
However, at the end of the day it’s all about being one heck of a support to the bride. The role of bridesmaid is one that should be honoured, cherished, and while there will be stress, from an outsider’s perspective, it seems to be well worth it. The memories from getting asked to participate in the wedding party all the way to the wedding itself seem irreplaceable. But until that day comes for me to be a bridesmaid, I think I’ll just sit back and enjoy the view as a guest from the outside.
(Photo cred: Preowned Wedding Dresses)